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Hindu Girl in Love with a Muslim Boy!Mon, 2013-09-02 03:06 — broken_heart
I'm sharing my problem, hopefully anyone who has experienced the same, and might be able to recommend like a well wisher what is right and wrong as to how to handle this situation, will be greatly appreciable.
I'm in Hindu girl, Sindhi who fell in love with a Kashmiri Muslim. It was like pure magic!! Love at first sight. We were instantly attracted to each other.
And I, on the other hand, hurt my parents, wen they kept getting good proposals fr me I said a firm NO to meet anyone and he wud say- ""pls don't go away from me, don't meet anyone else, I'm coming for you. Give a lil time, We met for a strong reason, we are meant to be together". I turned down proposals and never agreed to meet anyone. I did all this for him.
Its 10 months since we know each other now & my family wants me to settle down. He is supposed to come next week to meet my parents so that we can decide how to take it further. But until now, he's told ony his mom and sister abt me, not his dad & brother. He has been postponing it & is very scared to tel his dad he loves a Hindu girl, I can clearly see that.
Now wen its t time to come to meet my family he says lets be friends forever, he talks about being strong to face whatever comes our way. Keeps confusing me. First he said he will never let such a day come wherein I have to marry someone else, now he says If u marry someone else also, you will still stay in touch with me won't you? (I have given you my everything, so loyal so committed to you, dammit how t hell can I imagine marrying someone else?) He doesn't call much doesn't care to stay connected at all, he is distancing himself from me to try & make me strong. Wen I break down n start to cry on t phone saying pls answer me will you be coming, my parents are waiting to meet you now, for our happiness I convinced them, He will never respond properly.
He has booked t ticks fr next week almost a month back assuring me he will tell his dad abt us before coming here, but all of a sudden his attitude seems like he mite jus cancel t ticks and not turn upp.
Today, he said to me that it's definite I will have to convert to Islam to marry him as his dad will never approve of his marriage to a Hindu girl. He doesn't wish to push me into this and force me to convert as It is going to change my whole life, and changes are abundant. My relatives will break all relations with me, my parents will be immensely hurt, t culture in which I was brought up will have to be sacrificed, t festivals I celebrated until now will no longer be t same & finally, what If i regret after conversion? Both our lives will be ruined & our families will suffer. He says he never wants to see me unhappy & that's why he is considering that we part ways. He says today we are at a stage wherein we can save our selves, but tomorrow after being married & realizing what have we got ourselves into will be too late to rectify things.
I'm shattered. I appreciate his concern for being straight forward & saying things clearly. But he sweared on his Allah he would never leave me & we wud run away. Why can't we live as Muslim & Hindu together? Wen Hinduism accepts a person belonging to any culture without him/her having to convert?
I know today, what it feels to experience PAIN, His memories are everywhere. I dunno how I will ever be able to forget him. It's not possible for me to give love in t exact same manner to another man. My parents are hurt, and I cant even move on and imagine to prepare myself to meet a boy of their choice. .
I'm scared to trust, I'm scared of marriage. I'm scared any man can stand by his word? I was waiting to be married to him and wanted to have a happy marriage as I don't have too many friends. I don't keep unwanted unnecessary ppl in my life. You are either there or not there. I hate people who play double standards. I believe in having few, but true people in life. Hence, I connected every joy to him , He centered my world and became the reason of my smile. I dreamt of a future with him. His words, his care, his love felt very genuine and real. I cant believe this has hapnd. . I used to a happy girl, alwys smiling always making others smile. . It's like my smile has just disappeared, Im like a zinda laash. It's become weird to even talk to each other as it's not possible to be friend's after being seriously committed.
He's left me with is pain which is irreparable. . Where I see girls two timing in long distance relationships, having funn with her bf and keeping a timepass bf alwys available. N i on t other hand, got this as a reward for being fiercely loyal to him..?? For what..?
Some memories become so so so close to your heart, that nothng can make you forget them. . I'm destroyed, I have fallen soo hard I cannot rise again. His name. . His thought. . His words running in my mind, enough to make me weak. Just his thought gets my eyes flooded with tears. Whether at office, with friends, with cousins, with my parents, I break down anywhere in front of anyone. The tears don't stop. It feels like a nightmare. A bad dream which doesn't seem to end.
THANK YOU FOR READING PATIENTLY: Pls avoid harsh comments, and I sincerely request that no one comments in a mocky way to make funn and criticize me.