Baby Reindeer's Richard Gadd Talks About 'Relentless' Real Like Stalking; Says He Felt 'Sorry For Her'

Richard Gadd discusses his struggle with toxic empathy for his real-life stalker and shares insights into his creative process during TV Academy event, aiming to make series impactful.

Updated on May 10, 2024  |  09:14 PM IST |  142.2K
Richard Gadd Opens Up About Struggles With Toxic Empathy For Real-Life Stalker
Richard Gadd in Baby Reindeer (PC: YouTube)

In Los Angeles, the Baby Reindeer mania has become noticeable. In response to the phenomenal success of Richard Gadd's limited series, which has been at the top of Netflix's English-language TV ratings for an outstanding third week running, the streaming behemoth has thrown a red carpet for the show's creator and star on the West Coast. Currently on a media tour, Gadd is talking about the highly regarded series, which is based on his own six-year stalker experience. Jessica Gunning, the gifted actress who won accolades all around for her performance as the lady who terrified him, joins him in these discussions.

This meeting of Gadd and Gunning is expected to provide insights into the creation of the engrossing series, illuminating both the intricate storyline and the complexity of the real-life inspiration. With the excitement around Baby Reindeer only growing, audiences will have the chance to learn more about the fascinating universe that Gadd created and that Gunning's compelling performance brings to life with this promotional tour.

Baby Reindeer: Cast and Creators Gather for Intense Panel Discussion

Director Weronika Tofilska and editor Peter Oliver, two essential elements of the Baby Reindeer crew, along with actress Nava Mau, took centre stage Tuesday night at the Directors Guild of America alongside Richard Gadd and Jessica Gunning. With Tonya Mosley of NPR's Fresh Air serving as the moderator, this was the show's first panel discussion, and it drew a full house of TV Academy members anxious to talk with the producers. With deft guidance, Mosley covered a wide range of series topics, such as Gadd's process of turning his one-man stage play into a television series, his strategy for dealing with personal trauma (particularly his experiences of being stalked and sexually assaulted), and how Gunning got her prominent role in the show.

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The panellists endeavoured to shed light on Baby Reindeer's poignant, thought-provoking, and occasionally humorous passages while delving into the film's conceptual depths. Throughout the conversation, perspectives were exchanged about the difficulties and successes of adapting a story this intensely personal for the big screen, drawing praise and interest from both critics and viewers. Attendees packed the house, highlighting Baby Reindeer's power and relevance while providing an insight into the creative vision and teamwork that have contributed to the film's critical success.


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Introducing Baby Reindeer: A gripping tale of stalking and urvival

The plot of Baby Reindeer centers on Richard Gadd's character, comic Donny Dunn, who is facing both personal and professional difficulties. When he meets Martha, an innocent woman he meets at the bar where he works, his life takes a terrible turn. Donny offers her a free cup of tea, which initially starts a series of events that get out of hand. Over time, Martha's actual identity as a dangerous and compulsive stalker comes to light.

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Over several years, Martha bombards Donny with an incredible volume of correspondence—more than 41,000 emails, 744 tweets, 100 pages of letters, and an astounding 350 hours of voicemails, overtaking his life. Due to Martha's unrelenting pursuit, Donny finds himself in a terrifying situation where he is unable to escape her hold on his life.

A pivotal role in the story is played by Nava Mau, Donny's transsexual lover, who gets caught up in the mayhem caused by Martha's obsession with Donny. Viewers are taken on a compelling and thought-provoking trip into the darker reaches of the human mind as the drama explores the complexities of relationships, identity, and the consequences of unrestrained obsession.

Gadd's Obsessive Writing Journey: Crafting Baby Reindeer for the Screen

In response to the early questions, Gadd took the initiative and provided insight into the convoluted process involved in writing the scripts for all seven of "Baby Reindeer." Inspired by his critically acclaimed one-man production of the same name, which won numerous accolades in 2019 and 2020, Gadd started what he called a huge process.

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He openly discussed the severity of his writing process and how, in order to finish the scripts, he entered a profoundly compulsive condition. Gadd disclosed that he devoted long hours to the work, frequently devoting himself to writing from the wee hours of the day. His most prolific writing sessions started at five in the morning, and he would get up at the start of the day at the startlingly early hour of four thirty, working on the story until he went to bed the next day.

Baby Reindeer became more than just a hobby for Gadd; it became a deeply personal passion. He was so determined to make the project the best it could be that he felt obligated to give it everything he had in terms of creativity and commitment. Gadd acknowledged that he might have overexerted himself in his quest for excellence, but his steadfast dedication demonstrated his belief that this was too important to pursue with anything less than his very best effort.

Gunning's journey to Baby Reindeer: From admirer to cast member

Gunning was committed to the character long before he was cast in it. She revealed how she first became acquainted with Gadd and his creations: she managed to get a ticket for his critically praised one-man performance, Monkey See, Monkey Do, which was the forerunner of Baby Reindeer.

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"You know, it just struck me. One of the most poignant things I've ever seen performed live, I think," she pondered.

It's interesting to note that Monkey See, Monkey Do and Baby Reindeer episode four both focus on Gadd's difficult early experiences of being sexually abused by a mentor. The narrative intensifies at this point, though: Gunning, who was dying to see Baby Reindeer live, was out of luck because the events were sold out. What then does she do? Taking a cue from Martha, she decides to purchase the play text instead.

Embracing emotions: Nava Mau's transformative journey in Baby Reindeer

Famous for her part in HBO's Generation, Mau was giddy with anticipation when she first laid eyes on the "Baby Reindeer" script. She admitted, "I was hooked from the start," and that she had been engrossed in the story for the entire night, even journaling about it. She pestered her representatives for casting process updates because she was so invested. "It just grabbed hold of my mind and my heart and never let go," she said.

In an honest conversation with Mosley, Mau revealed how taking on the role turned into a therapeutic experience that allowed her to release pent-up feelings.

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"I didn't realise how much pent-up anger I had, how much I'd buried it deep inside," she said. She had learned to put other people's feelings ahead of her own as a transgender Latina woman in order to navigate the world. For Mau, it was a revelation to play a character that was unabashedly in touch with her own feelings. "It was a real challenge, but also incredibly empowering," she said. She felt more connected to her body and her truth after embarking on the liberating adventure of reconnecting with her own emotions.

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Behind the scenes from Baby Reindeer (via IMDB)

Authenticity over speculation: Jack Gadd's commitment to emotional truth in Baby Reindeer

Following its premiere on April 11, Baby Reindeer has become incredibly popular, leading to a flurry of web research as fans try to identify the real people who are behind the compelling story. Richard Gadd declined to discuss this part of the growing interest during Tuesday night's discussion, stating that speculating about real identities is to miss the point of the performance. Rather, he stressed how crucial it is to let "emotional truth" lead you during the creative process.

Gadd explained how important authenticity is to him and how reluctant he is to make up parts of the narrative. He underlined, "I never wanted to compromise... I constantly checked myself to ensure that every aspect felt genuine to my own experiences." He acknowledged that this devotion required a careful balancing act between staying true to his own story and the obligations of making captivating television. Gadd and his team carefully worked on this balance throughout the whole writing, filming, and editing process to make sure the show stuck to its emotional essence.

Thinking back on the difficult process of making "Baby Reindeer," Gadd recognized the difficulties in preserving this fragile balance. He did, however, express satisfaction with the product, saying that the crew was able to capture the core of his story despite the difficulties involved.

It wasn't easy to film episode four because of its strong emphasis on Tom Goodman-Hill's character Darrien and the sexual assault plot. Gadd wasn't afraid to admit how intense the process was, saying that while redoing scenes, even the props team found themselves in tears. Everybody involved was affected by the trauma that was shown in the show, which weighed heavily on the entire set.

Despite the difficulties, Gadd took comfort in the overwhelmingly good response the program had just received. He said, "It's been pretty mind-blowing." At first, he thought of "Baby Reindeer" as a hidden creative gem in a niche on Netflix. He felt as if everyone was paying attention to him when he woke up one day, though, since the unexpected growth in fame caught him off guard.

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Unpacking toxic empathy: Richard Gadd's candid reflections on Baby Reindeer

Gadd shared details of the fallout from his actual stalking experience, highlighting his continuous battle with "toxic empathy." He struggled to feel sympathy for his stalker despite the constant abuse he received; the stalker's identity has since been made public through interviews and internet posts made after the show's premiere. Despite her threats of legal action, Gadd was unable to get over his empathy for her; instead of seeing her as a monster, he saw someone who was lost in a broken system and dire need of assistance.

Considering the show's quick ascent to stardom, Gadd shared his thoughts on why viewers find the show so compelling. He pondered the situation of the globe, speculating that maybe we don't realize how much suffering we are all going through as a group. In light of this, "Baby Reindeer" is notable for its unwavering depiction of the challenging and dark sides of existence. Many TV shows choose a more broad, humorous approach, but Gadd thinks his series delves deeper into the complexity of the human condition. In a world where grey areas predominate, "Baby Reindeer" provides a genuine and unvarnished examination of the inconsistencies and internal conflicts that each of us faces.

Embracing ambiguity: Richard Gadd and the Multifaceted Message of Baby Reindeer

As the evening came to an end, Mosley asked the panelists a provocative question: what do they think viewers will remember about Baby Reindeer? Gunning's response was surprisingly open-minded; she hopes that by acknowledging the story's lack of neatly wrapped bows, audiences will accept its untidy, unpolished nature. She doesn't see any obvious villains or victims; instead, she invites viewers to discover the subtle nuances weaved throughout Richard's exquisite storytelling.

Gadd echoed this idea, saying he wanted people to see the show and come to their conclusions. Although he has a small dislike of works that spoon-feed spectators with a clear objective, he likes the ambiguity of the show's meaning

He enjoys the multitude of ways that the conclusion might be interpreted, especially in the last scene where Donny looks up at the bar. Every spectator brings a unique viewpoint to the table, and Gadd finds beauty in the wide range of inferences made from his art. In the end, he wants his viewers to take charge of their viewing experience and derive the meaning that most strongly speaks to them.

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