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Having Doubts About a Guy? 14 Telltale Signs He’s Not Into You
Struggling to grab your crush’s attention or reignite the spark in your relationship? Chances are that he’s not into you. Here are 14 signs to look out for.
Just like what happens when he likes you, a guy will give away signs he’s not into you, too. This can be someone you are in a romantic relationship with or someone who knows you have a crush on them and is giving you mixed signals to keep you around. This could also be a decent guy who is not direct with you as he is afraid of hurting your feelings.
It’s no news that relationships require work from both ends, and we can’t expect it to be a smooth sail. When we fall for someone, we often go out of our way to win over them and keep the charm alive. But as time passes, the spark dies out in some cases. While it is completely natural for relationships to feel monotonous at times, it isn’t a good sign if a person acts evidently passive yet does not step out of the relationship straightforwardly. This shows disinterest as well as a lack of respect for letting one’s partner go, which is a red flag!
If this is something you’re sensing from your partner, you need to accept it and move on from that relationship. At the end of the day, you need to trust your gut and quit fearing confrontation. To help you identify your situation better, here are 14 telltale signs he might not be into you (anymore).
30 Signs He's Not Into You
1. He Doesn’t Compliment You
Guys like it when women doll up for them. They usually don’t shy away from showering the woman they find attractive with praise. Understandably, not everyone is expressive in the same way. But if he never seems to notice your efforts, he probably doesn’t find you appealing in a romantic way.
2. He Doesn’t Pay Attention to You
Men are simple creatures. When they are into someone, that person often has their undivided attention. Observe his body language cues. If he doesn’t pay you enough attention or you feel that his mind is wandering around even when you are spending time together, it is a clear sign that he's not into you.
3. Avoids Making Plans
You may notice a pattern that he is not enthusiastic about spending time alone with you anymore. He has time for everyone but when it comes to you, he may strangely seem too busy. This is one of the most obvious signs he isn’t into you, and when this happens, the right thing to do is to accept things the way they are and quit being persistent.
4. He Flirts with Others
Flirting with others when you are in a committed relationship, should not be normalized. If he is devoted to you, he will think twice before making those frisky comments that will make you uncomfortable. He might think that he is being polite or friendly. But if he continues this pattern of behavior even after seeing how uncomfortable it’s making you, he is not the one! You should respect yourself enough to walk out of a dynamic like this.
5. He Is Actively Seeking Other Girls
When we have strong feelings for someone, others become invisible to us. But if he is keeping his options open, you might not be the one for him. Depending on what stage of relationship/acquaintance you are in with this person, you should decide whether you want to keep pursuing him or let that man go.
If you notice this behavior when you two are in a non-polygamous relationship walking out would be the right decision to honor and respect yourself.
6. He Makes No Effort
This is one of the clearest signs that he doesn’t feel the same way about you. When you start to feel that he is being distant and putting in no effort to make you feel special — not planning dates, making time from work, or dressing up to meet with you — it may be time to accept the reality and move on.
7. Inconsistent Communication
Reduced communication is another strong sign. Dating experts say that communication is the key to a healthy relationship. When he’s not into you, he might avoid communicating about his feelings. The situation is a recipe for disaster and the relationship will not last. It will only end up driving you insane.
8. Closed Body Language
You can tell a lot about how someone feels about you from their body language. If he is attracted to you, his body language might give it away as he will try to get closer to you. He will also take care of his appearance. The opposite might indicate that he doesn’t see you as a possible love interest. He will avoid eye contact, won’t hold your hand as often, or avoid walking beside you.
9. He Avoids Talk of the Future
If he gets uncomfortable when you bring up the future, chances are he is not as serious about you and only sees you as a prospect in a situationship. While it might get awkward to ask your crush about his future plans, if you’re already romantically involved with him, you need to be direct with him about what you want out of the relationship. And if it doesn’t resonate with you, break up before it gets too serious.
10. He Never Gets Jealous
Getting a little jealous is natural when you like someone. While being overly possessive is not healthy in any way, showing just a bit of jealousy might be a cute way of showing your partner that you are scared to lose them. When he stops showing this emotion, you can feel assured that he is getting distant.
11. He Ignores Your Texts or Calls
He might stop responding on time when you text or call them. Perhaps, the person who used to bombard you with cutesy messages throughout the day rarely finds the time to check up on you lately. Let’s be honest. Nobody is busy 24/7. Hence, if this is a pattern you’ve been observing, it may be a telltale sign that he’s not into you anymore.
12. He Is Never There for You
It goes without saying that being there for your partner is important to maintain a healthy relationship. Your partner should treat your problem as his own and try to lessen your burden as much as possible. Even if it’s not possible, he should provide emotional support. If he fails to do so, he is not a reliable partner to begin with and you should gladly get rid of him.
13. He Is No Longer Expressive
He might not express his love as frequently as he used to. He might even stop trying to woo you. If the bare minimum expression of love is too much work for him, he is definitely taking you for granted. You should not settle for such emotionally unavailable men.
14. He Ignores You on Social Media
When he is in love, he would want to show you off to his friends and family. Couples use social media platforms to share glimpses of their happy relationships. But if your partner is secretive about you or your relationship on social media, he might want to appear single so they can pursue other women.
What to Do When You Realize He Is Not Into You?
It’s never a good idea to keep chasing after something that’s not meant to be. You should come to terms with reality and focus on yourself. You need to accept that if he loves you, he won’t want you to suffer.
When you observe signs he’s not into you, you may be left feeling confused and disheartened. After all, no one wants to go through the excruciating pain of a breakup. That’s why we often tend to ignore signs of a dead relationship, even when our heart knows the truth. But the good news is life doesn’t end when someone stops loving us. A long-term and meaningful relationship can not be built on confusion.
Look out for warning signs and in the meantime, focus on personal growth. At the end of the day, you need to trust your gut and quit fearing confrontation. Besides, stepping away from a person who doesn’t value you and looking around can open your eyes to many potential romantic partners, who are willing to offer the love and affection you need. So, do yourself a favor and walk out when you need to!
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